My Message to You

You, my dear friend are getting married. After years of speculating when you will take the plunge, the moment has now arrived. And I am so happy for you. I have realized that when a friend does not call on you for comfort over some fight with a boyfriend or even talk much about their relationship, it’s an indication that she has found the one. It’s like every moment they have is theirs to keep and cherish and no one else can be part of it. And being a true friend, you just wait on the sides when you are needed. A little catching up here and there will do amidst the busy schedule. I’m okay with that you see because I have gone through that too.

One thing will surely be missed are the girl time only we had when we were still silly little women talking about our lives and relationships we had. Gone are the days when we would cry over some stupid things that our boyfriends did or did not do; the days when we would giggle over some silly little things that made our hearts melt because of some unexpected gestures from the objects of our affection, which were really insignificant actions to them but to us could bring us to cloud 9; the days when we could just talk or write to each other about anything under the sun of dreams and reality and what could be; and gone are the days when we could just laugh about all these things that we did over past relationships and look forward in anticipation to that day when we finally meet our match because I already did and you will vow to yours today.

But I will be looking forward to days when we will talk about the married life; the reality and joy of it. The days when we celebrate the gift of life, when our kids become friends with each other and hopefully form the same friendships that we have; and days when we could just sit back and talk over tea (tea party? He he… iced tea!) like matured knowing women of what life is.

A wedding is just the beginning to a lifetime of commitment. It is the door to a marriage of two people who made a sacred oath to be witnesses to each others’ best and worst habits, attitudes and characters. With the world dictating to enjoy life and getting married is just a hindrance to enjoying it, it is a challenge to settle down. And I am glad to you see walk down the aisle to the person you have chosen to be your life’s witness and to be his as well. They say that communication is the key to a lasting marriage, I would agree but I can add that in order to have a harmonious relationship, compromise, not your core principles but compromise the small things if you can, don’t fuss the little stuff. And don’t forget to continue dating each other especially when you have kids already. Marriage may seem a prison to those who are afraid to get in the bandwagon but to those who have, it is a friendship that has legal benefits and then some. What more can I say? I know there is still so much to say but we’ll talk that over after today when we get to meet again for coffee or tea so for now: Congratulations and Best Wishes to Mr. and Mrs. Florian Valdez. Cheers! ;)