Kids Are Mirrors

This is my official entry to the Momsquawk Facebook Contest.  You can read this entry here or at the Momsquawk page and read also other entries as they are pretty helpful to all parents.





I always wanted to have an affectionate family of my own.  I envisioned myself to be able to raise a family where hugging is abundant, appreciation is addressed well and humility is practiced.

I realized that in order to achieve that I have to make a decision, a decision wherein as a parent I will be modeling such affection in the family.  So I resolved to find someone who had the same views as I have.
And thankfully I did marry a very affectionate guy.  We both wanted to show and tell our affection to our kids.  We now have two young boys (a 2 & 9 mos. and an 8 mos. old) who are full of hugs and kisses and receive loving words from us.  

Hammie, the older son loves hugs, kisses and the endearment that we shower him.  When he was still a baby my husband and I would hug and kiss him at the same time.  After hugging him, we would ask him if he wanted more, he would nod smiling and he received another round of bear hugs and long kisses on the cheek until he had enough.  

Louie also is receiving the same warmth that we gave Hammie.  And it’s a pleasant feeling that Hammie does not get jealous instead he just smile looking at us, his parents hugging and kissing Louie.  We then call on to Hammie to join us for a big family hug, to which he laughs off and tries to run away smiling as his father would go get him.  In the end, he would be the one asking for more affection.

Today, Hammie also practices greeting everyone in the family when he wakes up in the morning and before he sleeps at night.  And he makes sure that he does his series of goodbyes with his father before going to work.  That’s a kiss on both cheeks, a kiss on the nose and a light bang of foreheads.  He looks for it even if he is still half asleep when his papa leaves for work.

There are moments in a day that he would just go to me or his papa and give a hug, kiss or tell us ‘I love yous’ spontaneously.  Being the elder brother, he hugs and kisses his little brother without us telling him to.  He passes on the affection that we showed him.  It’s so heartwarming to see him display his love for his brother, his papa and me, his mama like that.

It made me realized that whatever you do in being a parent is reflected in how your kids interact and grow.  Children are mirrors of their parents’ value system.  And though it’s a new world for me to be expressive, it sure is something that I look forward to everyday of being a mother to two such adorable kids.